Reflections
on the R.A. Job
By Allana Lewis-Leben,
Resident Assistant, Syracuse University
Talk about
overwhelming! I never thought that they would trust we with the lives
of 38 young women. I could barely take care of myself. But there I was
a Resident Advisor in a first-year residence hall. Time for meetings,
meetings and more meetings. Floor meetings, staff meetings and committee
meetings. Welcome to incident reports, troublemakers, and late nights.
Welcome to responsible living. Welcome to growth, both personal and professional.
Of course,
this was not all of my first impression of my new job. I thought Id
be losing out on my entire personal life. No more partying with my friends
or going home on a whim. I now had to dedicate myself to the lives of
my 38 residents, a staff of 19 other RAs and a senior staff of 4. It seemed
like a big sacrifice for free room and board, but looking back, its
an experience I wouldnt trade for the world. A million dollars,
maybe
but Id have to think about it first.
It wasnt
until I had actually met my staff that I was completely sure that this
was what I wanted. They were, and still are, the most positive group of
people I have ever met. Through them I have found connections that will
last a lifetime. By the time I met my residents, I was more worried about
whether or not they would like me, to worry about whether or not I would
excel in the job. After ten days of intense training, bonding with my
staff over last minute door decs at 2 a.m., and the creating bulletins
boards out of the prettiest paper I could find, my residents liking me
was my greatest concern. After my first floor meeting, I knew I wouldnt
have to worry.
I was there
at check-in and met most of my residents before they even got to the floor.
I was way too chipper, because I was so nervous. But as I stared into
a sea of about 30 brand new faces, still belonging to their parents, things
just got easier from there. We did the "Name Game" as an ice-breaker
(I was Adventurous Allana). It was important for me to be clear about
what I expected from the jump. As long as they respected themselves, their
floor-mates, and me, wed all get along fine. It was also important
for them to decide what was important to them.
Since that
first floor meeting weve tackled all that we wanted for the next
8 months. Weve probably missed a few things along the way, but I
think most of my residents, if not all, came away with a great experience.
I know I did.
Ive
met women that Ill remember forever. Heard things that could make
you laugh, cry, and mad at the world all at the same time. Id share,
except for that whole confidentiality thing. Ive influenced lives,
and had my life influenced by a spectacular group of women and an incredibly
supportive staff. Ive grown as a person, improved skills I had before,
and developed others I didnt know I was lacking. Ive been
able to improve on relationships Ive always had, while creating
new ones. Ive forged friendships that Ill cherish, and formed
a web of memories that Ill never forget. If I had to do it all again,
I wouldnt change a thing. I just wish I had done it sooner.
Thank you
to my residents, my fellow RAs, my senior staff and my Diversity Committee
members. Thanks to my family support, my friends and my significant other.
Thanks for the laughter, the tears and all the memories
but most
of all, thanks for the one of the best years of my life.
About the Author
Allana Lewis-Leben
just completed her junior year at Syracuse University. She served as a
Resident Advisor in the Office of Residence Life during the 2000-2001
academic year in a first-year center housing 760 students. She was also
an active member of the Office of Residence Life Diversity Committee where
she was integral in the development and implementation of a variety of
diversity initiatives.